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Why are we attracted to the emotionally unavailable? What can we do about it? Obviously, if we lose interest as soon as someone becomes. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I cannot trust my instincts: I almost think, if I am attracted to this person, it must actually MEAN that they are. The allure of emotionally unavailable men is undeniable to many. They are shiny and beautiful and attract us as a lure beckons a fish.
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Maybe you felt rejected or dismissed, or struggled to win their approval or recognition. Now as an adult you're easily "hooked" when someone pushes these old insecurity buttons.
You can only value them if you are in the one-down position, which makes you more easily dismissed by them, hence abandoned.
You may stay in the vicious cycle of pursuing hard-to-get lovers in order to keep replaying the old drama - to Glasgow conseguir una pareja gay yourself from your old abandonment wounds. Question your motives: Are you looking for Mums Mendip emotional high of infatuation or seeking a trusting, loving, mutual relationship?
In other words are you seeking romance instead of relationship? Reexamine your values about who is a "good catch.
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Recognize that these patterns don't just go away because you've become aware of. You have to change behavior. Open yourself to new truths, new values, new experiences, and new people. Do new things, new ways.
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